Another birthday...not nearly as much fun as they were when I was a kid. In spite of that fact, the day started out pretty well with 4 of my kids making a real effort to be helpful and kind. They kept it up all day which is the best type of gift. As for the 5th child...let's just say his morning meltdown wasn't on my wishlist...nor was his continued bad mood. Still, it's part of the package with kids like ours.
Children with trauma and impulse control issues have a very hard time putting the needs of others above their own. They have a hard time with changes in routine. They are uncomfortable in situations that they can't control. Special occasions often involve all of those things and are therefore stressful for our kids ...and I know that. Intellectually, I know that. I knew it when the same child threw a fit on Mother's Day, told me he hated me and swore at me. I understand what drives the behavior...and sometimes that doesn't make it any easier. This is one of those times.
I'm tired...I'm having a bit of a pity party...but at least my birthday wasn't as bad as this: